GET THE MOST OUT OF ONLINE DATING ❤️
ARE YOU SINGLE AND TIRED OF NONSENSE DATING?
Here are my top tips on how to connect at a deeper level with your potential partner:
Dating apps suck! That’s what I keep telling myself. In our fast-paced digital world finding someone who is available, that we vibe with and that actually follows through seems like a daunting task. It can be frustrating AF. However, with a thoughtful approach and genuine intentions, you can transform your dating experience into a meaningful quest for true connection. I don’t know about you, but I’m legitimately “prospecting” for a relationship so I don’t want to waste my time talking about how I also enjoy spicy margaritas and how the weather is… no thanks.
STEP 1- Crafting a Profile That Attracts the Right Match
Your dating app profile is your virtual first impression, so make it count. Instead of casting a wide net, focus on attracting the person who resonates with your values and interests. Here's how:
Be Authentic: Showcase your true self rather than creating an exaggerated persona. Authenticity is magnetic and paves the way for more genuine connections. Be weird, be you. Let people know what you’re into and what you’re most passionate about. Are you spiritual? Into personal development? Do you enjoy eating maccas three times a week? Are you a health freak? Enjoy traveling? Vegan?
Write that stuff down… that’s how people will connect with you.Choose Your Photos Wisely: Select photos that capture your personality and interests. A mix of candid shots and pictures depicting your hobbies can provide a well-rounded view of who you are.
Top tip- Stay away from using filters, use recent photos and have photos that show your face and your smile- we all love a beautiful smile!
Craft a Thoughtful Bio: Write a bio that succinctly describes your passions, values, and what you're seeking. Be clear about your intentions to attract like-minded individuals.
Initiating Meaningful Conversations
I personally have found it to be an inefficient waste of time to write women on dating apps. To me it’s the law of diminishing returns. When you compare how many high quality matches you get with a good online dating profile that causes women to contact you first, versus writing every woman you find attractive to elicit a response from the ones that like you too… its simply a more efficient use of your time to wait for women to respond to your profile first. Why? Many reasons. Saving you time is the obvious answer. However, the more powerful answer is this: if you wait for the women who like you to contact you first, it puts you in the position of being pursued. This starts them out chasing you from the get-go. It also causes them to see you as a catch. This only really happens with a well crafted profile though, keep that in mind.
Once you've matched with someone who intrigues you, it's time to initiate a conversation that goes beyond surface-level small talk. Here's a game plan:
Start with Intent: Your opening message should express genuine interest. A simple "Hi, I noticed we both share a passion for hiking. Have you been on any exciting trails recently?" shows you've taken the time to read their profile.
Get to the Heart of It: Instead of beating around the bush, ask the pivotal question: "What are you looking for?" This direct approach aligns both of you on your intentions, avoiding any miscommunication down the line.
The "Three Questions" Game: Kickstart a captivating conversation by inviting your match to ask three questions about you. This technique encourages meaningful engagement and reveals their curiosity about getting to know you better.
The “Three questions” are my absolute favourite. You can really get to know someone and their intentions by the quality of questions they ask you. If they can’t come up with questions (It’s happened many times), then you know they are not the one for you.
A few questions I ask are:
What are you passionate about?
What do you love?
What is the craziest thing you’ve ever done?
What is the most exciting place you ever had sex in public?
What do you like to do for fun?
Do you remember your first day of school? What was it like?
What do you love, but are afraid to admit you love it?
What’s unique and exciting about you?
What are your guilty pleasures?
What do your friends love most about you?
What makes life exciting to you?
What’s your biggest dream?
What are you most proud of?
What is the funniest thing that ever happened to you?
What’s the most fun you’ve ever had?
How do you know when a guy is right for you? What specifically makes him stand out from the rest?
What do your friends admire most about you?
Have you ever fallen in love just by looking into someone’s eyes? If she says yes, ask her specifically what it was that made them stand out from the rest: Their smile, clothes, body language, how they looked at you, tone of their voice, etc.? What was their “hook” that made them irresistible to you?
What makes you really happy?
What cracks you up more than anything?
What is the silliest thing you’ve ever done?
What is your favorite memory?
What is the funniest movie you’ve ever seen?
Have you ever been very mischievous and done things like put Mr. Bubble in a large water fountain, and then came back later to see the bubbles everywhere?
Have you ever farted and then blamed it on someone else successfully like an older relative?
What is the most fun you ever had on a date?
What’s the one thing you can’t say no to?
What are you really good at that would surprise me?
If you could wake up tomorrow and be anyplace in the world, where would it be? Why?
Nurturing Prospects for a Relationship
As you continue your conversation, focus on deepening your connection:
Share Your Stories: Narrate personal anecdotes that illustrate your values, experiences, and dreams. Storytelling fosters a sense of intimacy and mutual understanding.
Active Listening: Pay close attention to their responses and ask follow-up questions. This demonstrates your interest and willingness to engage on a profound level.
Discuss Future Goals: Inquire about their aspirations and how they envision a relationship fitting into their life. This not only reveals compatibility but also lays the groundwork for shared goals.
Navigating dating apps with the intention of finding a meaningful connection can be transformative. By setting up a profile that authentically represents you and initiating conversations that delve into the heart of the matter, you're paving the way for a deeper and more fulfilling romantic journey. I hope this helps! We’re in this together :)